Green eggs and ham

She wasn't looking at me or responding to my questions. Not a good sign. She was feeding kids lunch. I asked if I could make her a sandwhich. NO THANK YOU. A few minutes later, she makes herself a sandwich.

I wasn't sure why she was upset, I tried to apologize for something. I told her I was sorry I didn't see the text to buy ice cream sandwiches. I was sorry mom made a comment. No, she said, these were not why she was upset.

She said now was not the time to change her mind, that I'm always trying to change her mind, that she doesn't want to read that stupid book.

What book? I have no idea what you're talking about.

Several minutes of silence as I think about what sh's talking about.

Green eggs and ham!

When she realized I didn't see her text to buy ice cream sandwiches, she was upset. I said she should try the fudgcicles in the fridge. She would like them! No! She said. But you would like them! You've never tried them! They have them in China, i don't like them. But these are different than the ones in China! How do you know you don't like them? We should read green eggs and ham together.

I apologized, saying that was demeaning.

But did she really think I actually wanted to read it with her? Did she know it was just an intellectual conversation, that I was curious how she actually knew she didn't like fudgicicles? Especially since I know she likes chocolate and think she might like them?

If she actually thought I wanted to read the book with her, it makes me wonder if this is a cultural or language barrier. And if so, how many other times she gets offended based off cultural/language barriers. Maybe not, though.

Either way... I can't tell her! It would just make her more angry and fuel the argument.

The wife is always right, just got to apologize and hope it goes away!

Headache

I comment about a bad headache I'm having.

She comments that she's not surprised, that I always have headaches, that she would be surprised if I didn't have a headache.

I have actually only had 1 headache in the last 2 weeks. I tell her she hasn't been very nice recently.

She gets mad and asks for specifics.

I tell her.

She gets angry.

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Summary: when she tells me stuff I do that makes her sad, I feel bad and apologize. When I tell her stuff she does that makes me sad, she gets angry.